A marriage is like an investment. You have to look at short-term and well as long-term returns. You need to sacrifice a little early on, so you have something down the road to live off of. Maintaining good credit, diversifying and assessing risks are crucial for success in both. But, just like in finance, there may be a time in a marriage to cut your losses and move on. How do you know?
There’s a lot of limbo in divorce. We wait for court dates, signatures, schedules, and agreements. We experience a lot of waiting for the entire process to be complete. So, how do we maintain a peaceful relationship with our soon to be ex without giving in to the anger and resentment that might be rising inside?
Divorce can be traumatic to the strongest of people, and in many cases it doesn’t matter whether we’re the one leaving the marriage or the one being left; for many the end of a marriage is similar to the death of a loved one. And in a way it is – it’s the death of a relationship in which we placed hopes and dreams and to which we looked to fulfill wants and needs.
There are times in each child’s life where a change, such as divorce or moving to another community or city, can be devastating. Most times it is a young child who needs the security of their family home and school.
Going through a divorce doesn’t have to be ugly. Sometimes couples just realize it’s not going to work. Here are some tips from our guest blogger to help you get through your divorce without feeling bitter or resentful.
“You have too many married friends. You need to find some single friends.” This was advice given to me from my boss soon after my divorce.
Many divorces take place during the summer. This timing can help families adapt to the changes ahead. But it also makes returning to school a challenge for most children. Fortunately, there are ways to ease the transition by tapping to the many resources available through the school.
That’s why it’s wise to develop a cooperative relationship with key school personnel.
Learn how to survive divorce by keeping your focus off of the things perceived as lost. Our expert guest blogger suggests to keep a more positive train of thought and suggests uplifting topics where you can focus.
After two parents’ divorce, visitation schedules for the children involved are meant to be, as legal doctrine states, “…in the best interest of the child…”(www.divorcesupport.about.com). But they don’t always work smoothly in the day-to-day lives of divorced families. One issue parents might face is when the kids don’t want to visit the other parent. This article contains insights for “ironing out” child visitation problems.
Keys to cooperative co-parenting when going through a divorce successfully can be complicated. Children of divorce do best when both of their parents continue to be actively involved in their lives. It’s the ongoing connection that makes the positive difference for these children, minimizing the fact that their parents no longer live together.
Cooperative co-parenting is universally encouraged and because it is encouraged after divorce it can reduce the long-term negative emotional impact on children. Cooperative Co-parenting styles and arrangements can differ widely from family to family to suit their individual needs. Professionals agree that co-parenting will only succeed if some basic agreements are made and kept. This will help avoid significant mistakes.