Whether an adult or child, adjusting through a divorce takes time. It’s hardest for everyone during the first year, when changes are new. Parenting through a divorce is the time to protect your children from whatever adverse conditions the divorce may impact.
If you or a loved one is going through a divorce, it can be a very difficult time. But it doesn’t necessarily have to. The American Psychological Association (www.apa.org) published the article below. The article provides tips about how to keep your divorce “healthy” and avoid the emotional and physical stress that can occur when going through a divorce.
How can divorce make you a better person? In many ways, surviving a divorce can make you a stronger, more capable person. We found a great article on www.womansday.com that provides some insight on how this experience can help improve your life in unexpected ways.
Even the most ‘friendly’ divorce can be stressful, whether you’re the one leaving or being left. There are so many things to think of and take care of like custody of any children involved, division of joint property, and the long term financial effects of going from either two paychecks to one, or from one to just alimony and/or child support. As well as other things that can cause stress, such as how the friends and family react (i.e. if they choose sides) finding a new place to live and possibly a new school for the kids…the list goes on and on.
Divorce is never easy for any family, especially if you have adult children. When children are older, they have already had longer-established family rituals and memories. Divorce can cause much more of an impact on adult children than on younger children.
Adjusting to a new year is compounded by the stress of finding a new life after divorce. You can make the transition more positive by implementing New Year resolutions as a way to overcome the upheaval of your former life.
When going through a divorce we worry about our children and how they’re feeling. We want to make certain that they know how much we love them and that we will be there for them, whether Mom and Dad are together or not. We feel communicating with our children is more important now than ever.
Divorce is a stressful and sometimes traumatic event. A partnership that we entered, expecting it to be “for better or worse” and “in sickness and in health,” all of a sudden is ending and may leave us feeling lost and adrift. Our future may be uncertain, our finances may be a mess, and our self-esteem may be almost non-existent.
Today’s guest blogger provides lessons learned from her own divorce experience about moving on or “whiting out” those difficult and challenging times in life.
Getting ready to break the divorce news to your kids? Wondering how to approach the subject and how much to share? Concerned about how your kids will react and how to handle their questions?
Of course, you’re not alone, but that doesn’t make it feel any easier. Talking about divorce to your children is always tough. Get it wrong and you’ll face long-term consequences you may always regret.