Let go and embrace change. It sounds so easy, but it’s not. How many times have you been thrown a curve ball when you least expected it? Losing your job, divorce an unexpected health emergency, death of a loved one, family estrangements and more — all these can be devastating, scary and unexpected. There is an enormous adjustment to make, mainly because things are different and you are in a new situation you never experienced before. How can you find your peace so you can deal with the complexities of your new challenge?
Going through a divorce is not easy on anyone, especially the kids. As parents, we want to help our children experience as little or no anxiety about the situation. After all it’s not their fault. www.firstwivesworld.com published a very helpful article with some great tips for parents to use when their children experience different emotions through the divorce.
Divorce is a crucial decision, which will affect your life and the lives of your family for unknown and countless years. Instead of improving your life, a divorce may give you another set of problems to deal with. Getting ready for a divorce transition begins by evaluating your relationship’s facets.
“He makes me so angry”! “She is so unreasonable- no wonder we got divorced”! A good guess is that as a divorced parent you have made these statements – statements made in a tense situation involving visitation, custody or shared holidays. You divorced as a result of not being able to communicate, compromise, get along, and now, a divorce decree forces you to do all of these for your children.
Divorce can be traumatic to the strongest of people, and in many cases it doesn’t matter whether we’re the one leaving the marriage or the one being left; for many the end of a marriage is similar to the death of a loved one. And in a way it is – it’s the death of a relationship in which we placed hopes and dreams and to which we looked to fulfill wants and needs.
I will be one of many friends that will tell you: It’s OK to be angry, hurt and mad about your divorce. But, I’ll also be one of many friends that will tell you: It’s not OK to allow this anger to rule your life. You’re better than that!
That’s why I asked divorce experts to share their tips on how women can best manage that swelling anger that seems to take over all areas of life after a divorce.