Are you thinking this is the end of your marriage? Questioning if your marriage is salvageable? Feeling confused about your marital future? If you are contemplating divorce whether it’s a thought floating across your mind about leaving your marriage or perhaps it is the straw that broke the camel’s back or a knee-jerk moment, self-care is a must that needs to be integrated and included within your contemplation.
Valentine’s Day. You love it. Or you hate it. Which are you? If you’re tired of all this yucky love stuff, it’s time to consider celebrating this Valentine’s Day with a bit of self-love.
Pamper yourself using the following tips from our expert:
Divorce can be tough emotionally, physically and financially even when it’s done amicably. You’re losing a person you once loved, splitting your family and assets, not to mention an income source from the home is gone.
The changes in your finances and lifestyle after you and your spouse stop living together can be overwhelming. Divorce doesn’t make things simple, but if you allow yourself to separate emotions so that you can plan for you and your family’s future, in time you’ll have less regret.
Divorce is never an easy thing, and it’s made exponentially more difficult when there are kids involved. They get caught in the middle of what sometimes feels like a war zone. They are shuttled back and forth from one parent to the other, they may have to change schools and friends, and the divorce can leave the entire family in financial distress.
Divorce can be a scary and difficult time, but it does not have to be when prepared with the right tools. Being prepared going into a divorce can prove beneficial. There are steps that you can take in order to minimize the impact that divorce has.
Divorce is a traumatic process not just for parents but also for their children. To help children cope with the changes in their living arrangements once the courts have determined who will have custody of the children, parents can do the following:
“He makes me so angry”! “She is so unreasonable- no wonder we got divorced”! A good guess is that as a divorced parent you have made these statements – statements made in a tense situation involving visitation, custody or shared holidays. You divorced as a result of not being able to communicate, compromise, get along, and now, a divorce decree forces you to do all of these for your children.
As we enter the first month of 2018 this is a perfect time to reflect upon the past year and determine what really matters, who you want in your life, and how 2018 will be more abundant, peaceful and prosperous.
Whether an adult or child, adjusting through a divorce takes time. It’s hardest for everyone during the first year, when changes are new. Parenting through a divorce is the time to protect your children from whatever adverse conditions the divorce may impact.
If you or a loved one is going through a divorce, it can be a very difficult time. But it doesn’t necessarily have to. The American Psychological Association (www.apa.org) published the article below. The article provides tips about how to keep your divorce “healthy” and avoid the emotional and physical stress that can occur when going through a divorce.