When going through a divorce we worry about our children and how they’re feeling. We want to make certain that they know how much we love them and that we will be there for them, whether Mom and Dad are together or not. We feel communicating with our children is more important now than ever.
Divorce is a stressful and sometimes traumatic event. A partnership that we entered, expecting it to be “for better or worse” and “in sickness and in health,” all of a sudden is ending and may leave us feeling lost and adrift. Our future may be uncertain, our finances may be a mess, and our self-esteem may be almost non-existent.
Today’s guest blogger provides lessons learned from her own divorce experience about moving on or “whiting out” those difficult and challenging times in life.
Getting ready to break the divorce news to your kids? Wondering how to approach the subject and how much to share? Concerned about how your kids will react and how to handle their questions?
Of course, you’re not alone, but that doesn’t make it feel any easier. Talking about divorce to your children is always tough. Get it wrong and you’ll face long-term consequences you may always regret.
Co-parenting for your children can be a more difficult task than we expect. Because co-parenting for your children is about them, not us, we asked a divorce specialist to answer some questions to help newly divorced moms create balance and a strong foundation for their children throughout the divorce process. See what she suggests:
Learning how to adopt a healthy mental attitude in the face of life’s inevitable life transitions can mean the difference between despair and determination.
All of us, no matter how blessed and lucky we may be, have experienced trauma, loss, and adversity. Divorce and remarriage, a frightening illness, financial insecurity. How we cope with divorce and remarriage, however, determines whether we become overwhelmed, depressed, or ill – or if we emerge stronger, with greater confidence and wisdom.
How to tell your children that mom and dad are getting a divorce can be a real dilemma. We’ve put together some tips, offered from some of the top authorities on child-rearing, to help make it a little easier when telling your children:
The woman sat in her car. I don’t want to go to walk into my parents’ house. I don’t want to answer questions about my divorce.
One of the first things we often dwell on when we are faced with divorce are all the things we won’t be able to do as a family anymore. We remember camping trips, sports practices and games or visits with family and friends. But, we can focus our attention on the more positive angle. As a newly divorced Mother, you are given an opportunity to recreate and reconnect within the parameters of your new family dynamic.
Starting over after divorce is not for the faint of heart. It takes courage and persistence to redesign your life as a divorced mom! However, by focusing on your three Ps (Purpose, Passion and Planning) you will have the tools you need to get clear and confident about writing the next chapter of your life.