Divorce is not an easy thing to go through, especially when children are involved. Every child will react differently depending on their age, personality and the divorce situation. It’s a very emotional and stressful time for the whole family. As adults, we sometimes become so focused on our own stresses and needs that we fail to see how our decisions and actions affect those around us.
Younger children receive the news of their parents’ divorce with different emotions than the reactions of teenagers or young adults.
Younger children may become fearful, afraid to be alone, less outgoing, and clingy. The stability, security of their world has been shattered, and their reaction is one of “what is going to happen to us”.
Most changes to a family structure require adjustment time for everyone involved. With the right guidance and realistic expectations, most co-parented families are able to work out their growing pains and live separately with success. To create a healthy co-parenting atmosphere, you need open communication, positive attitudes, mutual respect, and plenty of love and patience.
1. Be the Leader of Your Life
Take 100% responsibility for the direction of your life, no matter what your circumstances are. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean taking blame. It means understanding that you and you alone, drive the direction of your life. When you take responsibility for the quality and outcome of your life, you begin to feel your personal power again, and people and opportunities will begin to magnetize to you. Confident divorced moms are the leaders of their lives. You can be too.
Accepting the reality and finality of divorce can be a tough challenge. We need to be able to let go of the life we knew and prepare to face an unknown future. That can be intimidating. Here are some key steps accepting your new reality with grace, peace and positive expectations for a happier life ahead.