Whether an adult or child, adjusting through a divorce takes time. It’s hardest for everyone during the first year, when changes are new. Parenting through a divorce is the time to protect your children from whatever adverse conditions the divorce may impact.
When transitioning from married to divorced it is sometimes necessary to go through periods of waiting. Our expert guest blogger reminds us the importance of setting that burden aside while protecting the relationship that each of us has with our children.
I am married, and I am a dad. I cannot tell you from the point of view of a single mother, how to parent a child. Yet, I still feel qualified to write this piece as I am the result of being raised by a single mom.
Feeling resistant to this idea? You’re not alone. Many divorced moms feel uncomfortable with the idea of taking time for themselves every day. Excuses such as lack of space, time or energy are common. The truth is resistance to this is really about not valuing yourself or prioritizing for your own well-being. That just won’t do if you want to have a happy and healthy life after divorce!
As mothers we want to raise boys that are both caring and nurturing, as well as strong and courageous. We realize the importance of respect and want nothing less than that for our sons. But, how do we instill all these qualities into our boys without a father figure in the household?
Learn how to protect and encourage your children when going through a divorce. Use this opportunity to teach them lessons about forgiveness and love. As hard as that might sound, it is possible to do if using the right attitude and perspective.