No one wants to think that their marriage might be heading for divorce. The paperwork, legal fees, mental strain, disruption to routine, and potential custody or alimony battles are enough to put anybody off of making that confession to themselves. But, unpleasant and taxing as exploring the possibility of divorce can be, sometimes, it needs to be done. So how do you know when it’s time?
Most people have heard at least something about the Patient Protection and Affordable Healthcare Act (“PPACA” or “ACA”), commonly referred to as Obamacare, but aren’t really too sure what exactly it is.
One of the toughest transitions for children of divorce is coping with the first holiday season. As parents our challenge is to create new traditions and activities that can replace the memories of family holidays in the past. Here are some suggestions for helping your children keep the best spirits through the holiday season.
All to often we are the ones giving other people something to talk about. Learn from our expert guest blogger and therapist, Erika Myers, how you can work together with your spouse and agree how to discuss your divorce with others.
It’s important to sit down as a family and talk about the divorce if at all possible. Having both parents discuss the plan really helps the kids feel more comfortable.
From my experience working with moms that are adjusting to a divorce, here are some of the more important themes/guidance:
As today’s guest blogger reminds us – marriage is about love, but divorce is about money.
So, though you may be on an emotional roller coaster right now, it’s in your best interest to stop and think about the “business” end of divorce. See what our guest and divorce financial expert has to say about becoming more knowledgeable about your finances as you and your husband consider a divorce:
I have the distinction (not one that I aspired to!) of being one of the many divorced women of the late 70’s- the year that the divorce rate skyrocketed. I had chosen motherhood over career. What was I going to do? It was traumatic, emotionally unsettling, and financially devastating. I did not have friends nor family who shared my experience. I was at a loss as to who I could go to for help and support, and more than anything, understanding. In my social groups, I was the “only” one divorced- the “token divorcee” of the neighborhood. Due to the continuing increase in divorce, what was not available to me so many years ago, can be found now: support, resources, help.
When you’re not the one who wants the divorce, it’s very hard. If you can determine why he wants to leave, listen and find out why he’s so discouraged about the marriage, maybe you can use the guidelines below for saving your marriage.
When going through a divorce we often worry about how it’s affecting our children. How do we make this transition easier for them? What is the most important thing we want to communicate to them? Our guest blogger reminds us of the importance of communicating love to our children.