Making Sound Decisions as a Single Person
As a newly-divorced person, making even the simplest decisions can be all of a sudden seem confusing or daunting. You’ve been used to having another person’s influence and input and someone else’s feelings to consider. Possibly that someone swayed your thinking at times.
Now, as a single person, you can base your decisions on what you really want and how you really feel, without others to please. But those very decisions can be so terrifying. You may find your thinking clouded up with doubts about yourself. Your mind can get bogged down with concerns and questions.
Here are five tips to help you face your choices, and make quality decisions.
1. Develop a support network for yourself of family and trusted friends. Don’t be afraid to ask them for advice. Or, if you need to talk, just ask for a listening ear. However, be very sure that that support person is 100. Percent. Behind. You.
2. Learn to love yourself, by giving yourself understanding. Quiet that inner voice of self-criticism. Spend time alone and monitor your thoughts and feelings. You might want to keep a journal. This new self-awareness will shed light on the decisions that you need to deal with.
3-. Step out of your comfort zone to meet new people and do new things. Learn about life from others’ perspectives. Research your wider choice of options before making decisions.
4. Strive to be happy and practice being grateful for what you have. Avoid going into debt.
The vulnerability you are experiencing at this time, though intense, will not last forever. You may find yourself with mood swings and intense feelings. Taking time for yourself and suspending big decisions will help you avert the wrong moves.
Written by: Ruby Moseley, Rust Built, Marketing Services