How To Spot Signs Your Relationship Could Be in Trouble
We have all had the feeling before. A feeling of sadness and doubt. You’re not sure if your relationship is just in a slump, or if it’s going to be over fairly soon. What you do know is that your relationship is in trouble, and you aren’t sure if it’s real trouble, or just something that’s going to blow by. Whatever your personal case may be, there are typically a few signs that signify the end of a relationship. If your relationship has a few of the factors listed below, chances are things may be taking a turn for the worse. Let’s now begin by taking a look at a few of the main
signs your relationship may be crumbling apart.
#1: You’re not happy:
The feeling of immense joy a relationship brings you at first is indescribable for most. This period, called the Honeymoon stage, doesn’t last forever, but you should still feel happy when you’re with your partner. If you spend time with them and just feel like going home and being alone, chances are you aren’t in love anymore. You should want to be around your partner every chance you get. If you don’t like spending time with them now, how will you feel spending the rest of your lives with them? If you aren’t happy in your relationship, it’s a huge sign that your relationship may be over soon.
#2: You argue about everything:
Every couple has arguments, even the strongest, most long-term couples. What they don’t do, is argue about everything that bothers them. Relationships need to have some push and shove. You need to give your partner some leeway, and they need to give you some back. If you end up fighting about what’s on TV, who’s cooking dinner, or other petty things like that, it’s a clear sign your relationship is coming close to an end.
#3: You don’t put effort in anymore:
This goes for both people in a relationship. You should want to make your partner feel great. You can do this in a multitude of ways. Whether itâ€™s making a fancy dish, wearing nice clothes, or surprising them in the bedroom, you should still feel like putting forth an effort to make your partner happy. If you, or your partner have no desire left to please each other, then your relationship is surely coming to an end.
#4: You no longer see a future with them:
The biggest indicator of a relationship that’s sure to fail in the near future is that you no longer see a future with your partner. If you can’t see yourself being with this person for a long time, why be with them in the first place? If you truly feel like there’s no future between the two of you, it’s a strong sign to end things sooner, rather than later.
If your relationship matches up with a few of these signs listed above, the easy option is to cry or think about your
. This won’t make things better though. Try talking to your partner about the issues you face, and try to fix them. If the problems between you two aren’t alleviated within a few weeks, you should probably end things. There’s billions of fish in the sea, and you don’t have to stay hung up on your old partner for long!
Written by: Miles Meason, Psy.D.,
Dr. Miles Meason Psychology
My name is Miles and some of the most important things in my life are my relationships. I didn’t grow up in a family where I was taught everything that I needed to know about relationships. I would easily get into relationships and when they were going well I would have a great time, but then when they would get hard I wouldn’t know what to do to make it better. For many years I struggled to understand them and feel happy in them a lot of the time. Most of all I just wanted my relationship to feel easy and relaxed instead of feeling like work.
A lot of men haven’t really thought about relationships and what makes them work. When I got into this profession I didn’t know that I wanted to work with couples and individuals who are wanting to work on their relationships. After feeling the changes in my life that have come through the growth in my own relationships I easily decided that I wanted to devote my professional life to helping other people find this joy in their relationships. I now help people have relationships that feel easy and relaxed.Dr. Miles Meason can be found on Google+: