Embrace the Change: Live Your Best Life After Divorce
Eleanor Roosevelt once said “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” Those going through a divorce may not believe this statement. If you are told over and over how dumb, ugly, or worthless you are, you begin to believe it. This verbal abuse happens every day to both men and women. Most people do not realize that those who “name-call” are usually the ones with the issues.
Life after divorce can be taxing on anyone, especially if you are unsure about how to pick up the pieces and begin a new life.
Below is a list of suggestions to help you realize YOU DESERVE BETTER:
- Love yourself, love yourself, and love yourself. Redefine yourself as a person and take back control over your life.
- Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself every day that you deserve to be happy. Believe.
- Get counseling. There is no shame in getting the help you need in order to move on with your life.
- Find new friends. You may find your married friends start to pull away from you because they don’t want to be in the middle. It will hurt at first, but find new friends that will not be affected by the old baggage.
- Try a new class, start exercising, or take up an old hobby that you once loved.
- If you have children, spend as much time as you can with them. Create new memories with your children that they can carry into their future to make them strong, confident and happy children.
- Make a priority to be selfish and do something just for you. The most important gift you can give your children is to take care of yourself.
- Rely on your family and friends for support. Ask for their help even when you think you don’t need it. If you are uncomfortable asking your family or friends for help, join a support group of people going through the same situation as you.
A divorce can be a disruptive time of financial and emotional strain. Feelings are hurt, financial support and security is changing, and a complete lifestyle alteration occurs during and after divorce. Survival of a divorce can help you get motivated and ready for these changes. Embrace the change; know you are worth it; and get out there and make the most of what this world has to offer you. You deserve it!
Written By: Michele Sfakianos, Open Pages Publishing, LLC
About the Author:
Michele is a Registered Nurse, Leading Authority on Parenting, Speaker and Award-winning Author.