How to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem After Divorce
Regaining your life after divorce may take a bit of work. Learn from our expert guest blogger how to get your life back after divorce and rebuild your self-esteem.
Divorce can be devastating on many levels. In addition to the financial and stress toll on both partners, it can easily wreak havoc on one’s self-esteem. Those who were not expecting or in any way desiring the break-up can come away feeling psychologically battered, confused and questioning their own worth. Here are some suggestions to guide you in boosting your self-esteem during the divorce and its aftermath.
Be committed to releasing the past:
If you stay stuck in reliving and clinging to what no longer is your reality, you will not open the door to the next chapter in your life. Make space in your life for new friends, relationships, career options and fulfilling activities. See the future as a positive beginning for you and your children. You’ll be pleasantly surprised about what you can create when you anticipate good things ahead.
Choose your company wisely:
We can’t easily change other people, but we can change the people we associate with. If your social group isn’t supportive of you, or tends to wallow in self-pity, realize you have a choice in your life about who you spend time with. Choose instead aware, introspective people who accept responsibility for their own behavior. Move out of the blame game and put yourself in the company of positive people who can appreciate you, with all your assets and baggage, as the wonderful person you are.
Be Flexible about Change:
Life is always filled with changes, not just during divorce. While dark periods are tough to handle, realize they too will fall away and be replaced with better days and new relationships. Listen to your self-talk. Let go of limiting beliefs about yourself. When you catch yourself in doubt, fear or put-down language, become aware of that message and consciously refute it. Determine what you want to change about yourself from within and relax about controlling circumstances around you.
Life is all about choices and decisions. Use your divorce as a catalyst for positive change. Choose to be the person and parent you most want to be. Then watch how circumstances around you settle into place more harmoniously than you ever expected.
Written By: Rosalind Sedacca
About the Author:
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a Divorce and Parenting Coach, founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network and author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love! To get her free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting: Success Strategies for Getting It Right!, free ezine, blog, coaching services and other valuable resources for parents facing, moving through or transitioning after divorce, visit: http://www.childcentereddivorce.com. © Rosalind Sedacca All rights reserved.