Moving On Through Divorce
You deserve better than to be with someone who doesn’t want to be married to you. Instead of wasting energy on convincing him that he’s making a big mistake, start planning your new life – for yourself and your children.
Of course this isn’t easy. But it can be a turning point in your life. If your fears and insecurities are substantial, get private counseling before moving ahead with any physical changes. If what you need is a spirit boost, look yourself in the mirror and acknowledge all your desirable qualities. Then make a list of your many attributes, talents, and positive personality traits. Start believing in yourself and knowing that there is a better future ahead for you.
Become aware of your self-talk. Catch yourself putting yourself down, calling yourself fat, too old, boring, stupid, or any other term you may have previously used to make yourself feel less valuable to the world. Start consciously calling yourself “a babe” or “a great catch,” and begin visualizing yourself laughing and walking hand-in-hand with someone special who deserves you.
Keep mentally affirming, “I deserve to be in a great relationship and I’m attracting that into my life,” or some other phrase that resonates with you. Start anticipating success and feeling like the woman you want to be.
Prepare your children for the divorce ahead, but don’t keep them from their Dad. He’s not divorcing them. Create a plan for respectful, effective co-parenting and use all the resources available to help you.
Written By: Rosalind Sedacca
About the Author:
Rosalind Sedacca, Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, is the author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! To learn more about the ebook, visit http://www.howdoitellthekids.com. For her free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting, free ezine, coaching services and other valuable resources for parents, visit: www.childcentereddivorce.com.