Divorce and children? There are effective ways to talk to your kids. There’s no doubt that divorce can be a life trauma for children. In most cases they are resistant, angry, fearful and anxious about how the divorce will effect them and change their lives.
For parents, it’s a time to master the art of good parent/child communication so you can reinforce and rebuild trust, security and confidence that things will be okay again – despite the changes inflicted by your divorce.
We have all had the feeling before. A feeling of sadness and doubt. You’re not sure if your relationship is just in a slump, or if it’s going to be over fairly soon. What you do know is that your relationship is in trouble, and you aren’t sure if it’s real trouble, or just something that’s going to blow by. Whatever your personal case may be, there are typically a few signs that signify the end of a relationship. If your relationship has a few of the factors listed below, chances are things may be taking a turn for the worse. Let’s now begin by taking a look at a few of the main
signs your relationship may be crumbling apart.
Relationships can be tricky to maintain especially if one party cannot figure out where the relationship is going or if it is actually going somewhere. Knowing the signs of a distressed relationship is therefore important since it can help you put measures in place to salvage it or end it and avoid protracted suffering.
Most children talk very little about their parents’ divorce and their feelings about it even though they experience deep grief. Parents who would like their children to open up and talk about their feelings about the divorce can do the following things:
When it comes to ex-spouse conflicts, our life could stay in the glass-half-empty mode. Anger and forgiveness could be the culprit. Are you tired of fighting in court? Do you blame your ex for the loss of hopes and dreams? You’re not alone. So, how do we deal with our ex for all time, especially when we share children?
How you talk to your kids about divorce can make all the difference. Sometimes, especially with younger children, you don’t even need to use the word “divorce.” A brief and simple explanation of what changes might be happening is a great start.
If you’re a mom who is going through a divorce, or have gone through one – you know the strain it can place on your children, and the guilt you feel when you see them hurting.
So, we’ve asked divorce experts to give moms proactive steps that they can take to minimize the strain on the children, alleviate the guilt and stop the hurting. Read their thoughtful tips below:
Managing stress takes both a mental and physical strength. As long as you live and co-exist in society you will have bills, work to maintain a career and maybe even take care of family. These things can be demanding. You must always remember no matter what comes your way, maintaining control of your life is the foundation of stress management.
How to tell your children that mom and dad are getting a divorce can be a real dilemma. We’ve put together some tips, offered from some of the top authorities on child-rearing, to help make it a little easier when telling your children:
Every relationship is different. Marriages end for different reasons. Divorces are avoided for different reasons.
So, first understanding the value of your relationship is a great first step in determining what can (or can’t) be done to save a marriage that may be headed to divorce. As today’s guest blogger and relationship author tells us, start by asking yourself if your marriage is worth saving: